The heading is actually my lesson of the day - learnt on Saturday, June 5th 2004.
Sorry that this blog wasn't up on time to reflect the timeliness of the lesson learnt on the said day.
Of importance to note is the fact that this blog title is also a direct quote, in essence it was a indeed a quoteable quote from my just-returned-from-honeymoon sister-in-law, Miss oooppss...sorry, the politically correct term now would be Mrs. Bavani Subramaniam.
For the record, Mrs. Bavani who the family fondly calls as Boo is actually married to my beloved brother Mr. Suresh Ramasamy. They officially tied the knot on May 23rd 2004 in the northern state of Penang Island, which is otherwise known as Pearl of the Orient, marked by a ceremonial wedding coloured with Hindu tradition and witnessed by family and friends (the wedding itself and my experience being a bride's mate is worth a blog on its own - to emerge soon).
Back to the lesson learnt (see how easily I get distracted when speaking of Ms. Boo?!) - my dear sister-in-law (SIL), upon settling down comfortably on her brand-new L-shaped sofa last Saturday, made the statement of the day (refer to title of this blog) out of the norm.
Though I'm still trying to figure why she came up with the brilliant idea of saying what she did, I must say, in all honesty, that credit is due to Ms. Boo for giving me an insight into what she meant by and I quote, "... and love marriage means no transition period in one's married life because you get to marry the person you courted and love so very deeply. It eases the immediate post marriage-blues and reduces the tension most arranged-marriage couples undergo in normal circumstances."
As much as her quote was least anticipated (I must also qualify that Ms.Boo is known to say what is often least expected in the nick of time) and out-of-the-purple (yeah, I adore purple, so what?) - it got me thinking hard.
My brother Suresh, equally took me by surprise when he used the opportunity to start an action-packed conversation among us on the advantages of love marriage.
What started out as an impromptu sentence from Ms. Boo, actually got me thinking of real facts of life - thoughts of how true her statement is, still lingers in my mind. The advantages of a love marriage endorsed by both parents (in her instance, that is) in a day-to-day living concept was something I never thought of.
I mean, of course, I've heard a million reasons why one should prefer to have a love marriage as opposed to an arranged marriage (note that I'm not trying to pit one against the other, am only stating my personal preference towards love marriages) but I never really got around thinking about the benefits of love marriages from a practical perspective - especially, the merits as rightly pointed out by my sister-in-law.
Love marriages mean no transition period.
Am still pondering over it. Am thinking about what I used to think about love marriages. Am recalling why love marriages appealed to me much stronger than traditionally arranged weddings.
Am still trying to figure it out completely - there is much that comes to the mind at the mention of love marriages but so little time to express it all.
Watch this space for Part 2 on Love Marriages!
